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  • Writer's pictureGlyn Heath

Mentor or Coach?: A Buyers Guide

What’s the difference between a mentor and a coach? Do I need both, just one or neither? And if I decide I do need one, how do I go about the selection process? In this blog I’ll discuss these questions and attempt to answer many more.

Confusion to clarity

Mentoring and coaching are both forms of professional development that can help people grow and achieve their goals. However, there are some key differences between the two.

A mentor is someone who shares their knowledge, skills, and experience with a mentee in order to help them develop and grow both professionally and personally. Mentors typically have more experience and expertise than their mentees, and they can provide guidance, advice, and support. Mentoring relationships can be formal or informal, and they can last for a few months or even years.

A coach is someone who helps a client achieve their goals by providing them with feedback, support, and encouragement. Coaches typically focus on helping their clients identify their strengths and weaknesses, set goals, acquire new skills and develop strategies to achieve their goals. Coaching relationships are typically more structured than mentoring relationships, and they often have a specific end goal in mind.

Purpose and Focus

A mentor typically provides guidance and support based on their own experience and expertise and is focused on developing the individual overall, including their career, expertise, networks and professional and personal growth. They focus on the mentee's long-term development and career growth. A coach, on the other hand, helps individuals improve specific skills and performance or achieve defined goals within a given timeframe.

Expertise and Experience

Mentors typically have a wealth of experience and knowledge in the same industry or role as the mentee. They draw on their own career journey to provide guidance and insights. Coaches, on the other hand, may have expertise in coaching techniques and methodologies, rather than specific industry knowledge. They help individuals unlock their potential and maximise performance.

Timeframe and Relationship

Mentoring relationships tend to be long-term, spanning months or even years, based on mutual trust and respect. Mentors share their knowledge, wisdom, and perspectives, offering advice and acting as a sounding board with a focus on continuous support and development. Coaching relationships are often shorter-term and more formal with a specific timeframe and development goals in mind. Coaches offer support during a particular phase or for a defined skill development and provide objective feedback, challenge assumptions, and guide the individual through a specific process.

Insight and Direction

A mentor provides insight and perspective gained from their own experience and generally takes a broader advisory role, offering wisdom, connections and advice. A coach works to draw out the mentee's own insights and develop inner awareness through structure, tools and accountability for reaching goals.

Evaluation and Performance

Mentoring relationships are typically non-evaluative and more open-ended. Mentors provide advice and guidance without directly assessing or measuring performance. Coaching relationships, however, often involve performance evaluation and measurement using precise questioning and active listening techniques to help individuals identify areas for improvement and facilitate their growth.


A mentor is usually more senior to the mentee in experience and position. Coaches are more usually detached from organisational status or hierarchy.

It's important to note that the distinction between mentoring and coaching can vary in practice, and there may be overlap between the two roles. In some cases, a mentor may also provide coaching-like support, and a coach may offer guidance based on their own experiences. The specific roles and expectations can be tailored to the needs of the individual and the context of the relationship.

Ultimately, the best way to decide whether you need a mentor or a coach is to consider your specific needs and goals. If you are looking for someone to help you develop your expertise and knowledge, a mentor may be a good fit for you. If you are looking for someone to help you achieve a specific goal, or improve an existing skill or master a new one a coach may be a better option.

Here are some additional things to consider when choosing between a mentor and a coach:

  • Your goals: What are you hoping to achieve?

  • Your personality: Do you prefer a more formal or informal relationship?

  • Your budget: How much are you willing to spend?

  • Your availability: How much time do you have to commit?

Once you have considered these factors, you can start to look for a mentor or coach who is a good fit for you. Before we look at how to go about selecting a mentor or coach let’s look at how you can maximise the value from that relationship.

How do I get the most from my mentor or coach?

Your mentor or coach should always have your best interests at heart and genuinely be engaged in your success. The best way to get the most out of the relationship is to ensure that both parties share a common understanding both at inception and throughout the relationship. Here are some pointers to make sure you’re fulfilling your end of the deal:

Set Clear Expectations and Goals

  • Be clear about your goals: What do you want to achieve? What are your specific areas of weakness or growth? Once you know your goals, you can start to develop a plan with your mentor or coach.

  • Set clear expectations: What do you hope to get out of the relationship? What are their expectations of you?

  • Before meetings, share updates on your progress so they can calibrate their advice.

  • Go to each session prepared with specific questions and desired outcomes; don't expect them to always guide the conversation.

  • Use coaching time effectively, don't just chat. Have an agenda to stay focussed on the areas you want to cover in the session.

Take Ownership of Your Development and be Open and Receptive

  • Accept accountability from your coach or mentor. Remember that your mentor or coach is there to guide and support you, but ultimately, your growth and progress depend on your own efforts.

  • Take responsibility for implementing the advice and taking action on the goals you set.

  • Approach the mentoring or coaching relationship with an open mind and a willingness to learn.

  • Be receptive to feedback and advice, even if it does not accord with your current thinking or habits.

  • Be open to being challenged and don't be defensive if they offer constructive feedback. They are there to elevate your performance.

Seek Feedback Regularly

  • Actively seek feedback from your mentor or coach on your progress and performance.

  • Regular check-ins can help you assess your development and make any necessary adjustments.

  • Be willing to take risks; mentoring and coaching can sometimes push you outside of your comfort zone.

  • Be willing to try new things. This is where you will learn and grow the most.

  • Listen actively and be open to feedback that may be hard to hear but important for your growth.

Be Proactive in Seeking Support and Maintain Open Communication

  • Don't hesitate to reach out to your mentor or coach when you encounter challenges or need guidance. They are there to support you, so take advantage of their expertise and experience.

  • Be willing to ask for help; they are there to help you succeed and the more they know about you, the better they can help.

  • Be honest and vulnerable about your skills, challenges and goals. Share your thoughts and feelings, hold nothing back! It’s important to be open with your mentor or coach.

  • Don't just vent frustrations; focus on solutions and ask for practical tips.

Reflect and Self-Assess

  • Take time to reflect on your own performance and progress. Regularly assess your strengths, weaknesses, and areas for improvement. This self-assessment can help guide the conversations and maintain focus.

  • Be patient and don't expect to see results overnight. It takes time to build a strong mentoring or coaching relationship.

  • Show your appreciation for your mentor or coach's time and effort. Thank them for their help and support and keep them updated on your leadership performance or career advancement.

  • Offer to mentor others in the future.

Apply Learnings in Real-world Scenarios

  • Practice applying what you learn from your mentor or coach in real-life situations.

  • Seek opportunities to implement new strategies or skills to reinforce your development.

  • Be prepared to work hard; mentoring and coaching are not quick fixes. It takes time and effort to achieve your goals. Be prepared to put in the work and be open to feedback from your mentor or coach.

  • Ask for introductions to people that can help you gain experience and access to wider networks. Leverage their connections.

  • Commit to action between sessions; do the work and reflect on the experience to maximise learning.

  • Evaluate progress frequently and adjust goals as needed to achieve breakthrough results.

Remember, the effectiveness of the mentoring or coaching relationship depends on both parties' commitment and effort. By actively engaging in the process and following these tips, you can maximise the benefits and achieve the best results from your mentor and coach.

The best mentors and coaches can unlock a new level of performance, but you need to be an engaged and active participant. By taking ownership of the relationships, you'll get the most from their guidance, wisdom and support.

How do I go about finding and selecting someone to work with?

Here are some of the key considerations a business leader should take into account when selecting a mentor or coach:

  • Overall Approach: Understand the coaching or mentoring approach of the individual you are considering. Some focus on specific skill development, while others take a more holistic approach. Consider your own needs and goals and ensure that the coaching or mentoring approach aligns with them. Look for someone focused on driving action and accountability. The sessions should lead to insights you can apply immediately.

  • Relevance of experience: Look for someone who has experience in your industry, leadership role or functional area. They should understand the context and challenges you face.

  • Expertise: Select someone who can provide the expertise or skills you lack. Look for complementary skills and knowledge to fill your gaps.

  • Credibility: Select someone you inherently respect based on their accomplishments and track record. Their advice will hold more weight. Consider their track record and success in their own career.

  • Compatibility and Chemistry: Building a strong relationship based on trust and mutual respect is crucial for effective coaching or mentoring. There should be a natural rapport in the relationship. You both need to feel comfortable and engaged for maximum effectiveness.

  • Personality and style: The mentor's personality and style should be a good fit for your own. Consider their communication style and whether it aligns with your preferences, working style and values.

  • Availability and Commitment: Will they be able to dedicate sufficient time and attention to your development? It is important that they are accessible and responsive when you need guidance or support; it needs to be a priority for both parties.

  • Cost and Investment: Understand the fees and payment structure, and evaluate whether the fees will be within your budget and the potential benefits justify the cost. There are some coaches and mentors who offer their services for free or at a reduced rate.

  • Location: Their location may be important to you, depending on how you prefer to meet. Some mentors offer virtual coaching, while others prefer to meet in person.

  • Feedback and References: Seek feedback and references from others who have worked with the potential mentor or coach. Hearing about their experiences and results can provide valuable insights into their effectiveness and impact.

  • Confidentiality: Trust and confidentiality are essential in a coaching or mentoring relationship. Ensure that the mentor or coach understands the importance of maintaining confidentiality and has a clear policy in place.

  • Network: Consider a mentor/coach who can open doors through their network and connections. Access to new contacts can be invaluable.

By assessing these key factors, you will be able to make an informed decision when selecting a mentor or coach who can provide valuable guidance and support in your professional and personal development journey.

If you are genuinely interested in enhancing your leadership skills and achieving your business and life goals, then finding the right mentor or coach can be a valuable investment.

In Conclusion

The decision between choosing a mentor or a coach hinges on your specific needs and objectives. While both roles offer valuable guidance and support, mentors typically provide long-term, informal development based on their own experience, while coaches offer short-term, structured assistance aimed at achieving specific goals. Some mentors and coaches are able to offer hybrid support tailored to a combination of your needs, which might change over time.

It's essential to consider your goals, personality, budget, and availability when making this choice. In order to maximise the benefits of such a relationship, clear expectations, active engagement, feedback-seeking, and self-assessment are key. Furthermore, when selecting a mentor or coach, factors such as their approach, relevant experience, expertise, credibility, compatibility, availability, cost, location, feedback, confidentiality, and network should be carefully evaluated to ensure a successful outcome from this valuable investment in your personal and professional growth.

Ultimately, being an engaged and active participant in the mentoring or coaching process is crucial for unlocking the full potential of these relationships.

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